Experts Agree Prince Harry's Call To Ex Was A Good Move
While most people watching Prince Harry and Meghan Markle's royal wedding were too busy gawking over Markle's dress and Harry's attractive and possibly single cousin, others were keeping an eye out for his exes.
Both Cressida Bonas and Chelsy Davy attended the ceremony, and Davy's facial expressions caught many peoples' attention for seeming less than comfortable. However, a source told Vanity Fair the two had one last "emotional" phone call before the wedding to ensure that their relationship was in a good place.
"It was their final call, a parting call in which they both acknowledged Harry was moving on," the source told Vanity Fair. "Chelsy was quite emotional about it all, she was in tears and almost didn't go to the wedding."
According to April Masini of the Relationship Advice Forum, the call was a smart move on Harry's part if it did in fact occur.
"His relationship with Ms. Davy was said to have been on again/off again for seven years," Masini told INSIDER. "Given that length and amorphous structure to the relationship, he did the right thing."
Relationship expert Susan Winter agrees that finding closure is important at the end of a long relationship, especially when it's possible to run into each other again.
"The chances are high that they'll see each other some place, at some event, in the future," Winter said. "Without closure, this can make for an uncomfortable and awkward exchange."
While closure is important to the process of moving forward, Masini questions the timing of the reported phone call.
"The problem with the proper ending he [reportedly] gave her was his timing," Masini told INSIDER. "The question on everyone's mind is — why didn't he do this sooner — like when he got engaged, or when he and Meghan Markle got serious in their dating process."
When it comes to inviting such a close ex to a wedding, Masini feels that inviting an ex so closely after finding closure may not be the best idea.
"In general, I don't recommend that exes be invited to weddings — especially on the heels of a breakup or 'closure call,'" Masini said. " It creates a distraction from the wedding. It creates emotional pressure on all parties involved — including the new spouse. And it's unnecessary."
There are special instances, however, when an ex may not create such an unnecessary distraction.
"In rare cases where all parties have moved on and are even remarried to others, or when there are shared children involved and there is a healthy relationship with good feelings and support of the new couple marrying, it's okay," Masini said.
Masini also points out that remaining friendly with exes should be evaluated on a case-by-case basis, and everyone involved should feel comfortable.
"You and your ex may be fine, but if staying friendly with that ex creates problems in your new relationship, choose wisely," Masini said. "If you're more committed to a friendship with an ex than you are to a new spouse, you may not have been ready to marry."
Date Posted: Friday, May 25th, 2018 , Total Page Views: 970